We’ve covered what “born again” means: not judging, but feeling and sharing unconditional love for all; and why we need it: without love, we sabotage ourselves and everyone else; and how to achieve it: be mindful, and accept the billions of other lives, all needing and worthy of dignity, respect, forgiveness, and compassion.

“Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. / For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”-Matthew 11:29, 30.

Despite what Jesus said, we find little about his yoke that is easy or light: mostly because we aren’t meek and lowly in heart, and our souls are anything but restful.

Let us say we do reach that point, what, in the Parable of the Sower, Jesus called “the good ground.” We work and work, until we achieve, through grace and sacrifice, what should be easy; and we are reborn. Then begins our most difficult trial.

When we succeed, our pride swells. With pride as our guide, we fail. Until we learn how to maintain humility in God’s presence, and practice unconditional compassion, and automatic forgiveness, then we’ll have to be reborn again and again.

“The kingdom of heaven is like unto a certain king, which made a marriage for his son.”-Matthew 22:2.

We studied this marriage last time. We are the bride, and Jesus is the groom; we are the life, and love makes us whole. This parable doesn’t mention the bride. But that’s because we have other parts to play.

God is the king. And since God is love, then love presides over the kingdom of heaven. As Jesus told Nicodemus:

“…Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.”-John 3:3.

So we understand love by feeling and practicing mercy, compassion, forgiveness, acceptance, and respect; and when we learn to do these things naturally, we are reborn.

Jesus is the king’s son. He is the door, and we must pass through his lessons of our own free will, in order to reach the kingdom.

“I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture.”-John 10:9.

To find rest for our souls, all we have to do is follow the example Jesus gave us.

“And [the king] sent forth his servants to call them that were bidden to the wedding: and they would not come.”-Matthew 22:3.

God calls us to love one another: This is the invitation. If we accept, we are born again; through our actions, we invite others.

This is the first path: the servant.

With our wedding, we commit to a life of love, for better or worse, together. But first, we choose to accept or decline the groom. When we say yes to Jesus, then we become the bride, and the servant. These roles combine, as we minister to others; with our comforting of them, we invite them too.

Now we switch to the second path: the invited. After we’re born again, servants come to offer us a chance to show loving kindness.

How we react to the invitation determines our path.

When we’re offered the chance to love life, and we say no, we harm ourselves.

“The merciful man doeth good to his own soul: but he that is cruel troubleth his own flesh.”-Proverbs 11:17.

No matter how others treat us, if we react with love, then we accept the groom’s proposal. We enter the kingdom of heaven, and live a wonderful life.

No matter how others treat us, if we react with hate, if we refuse to forgive, and be compassionate and merciful, we harm ourselves.

When we deny the groom, we deprive ourselves of heaven. Then, we live a hellish life.

“Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction.”-Isaiah 48:10.

This tribulation afflicts and refines us. We resort to this drastic method so we learn how someone else feels, when they hurt: So that, next time, we’ll comfort them when they need it; we’ll accept the invitation, react wisely, and enter the kingdom of heaven.

“Again, he sent forth other servants, saying, Tell them which are bidden, Behold, I have prepared my dinner: my oxen and my fatlings are killed, and all things are ready: come unto the marriage.”-Matthew 22:4.

One fatling (or fattened calf) would feed an entire village. So multiple fatlings, and oxen too, made a huge, country-wide feast, which celebrated the king’s son getting married, and the propagation of the king’s reign: spreading the word.

Remember, the king invited the people who had already been reborn. After a difficult trial, they succeeded in winning the king’s favor. He honored them, and expected them to honor his son.

“But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.”-John 4:14.

God blesses us with everlasting life. God is love, and love is life, which is all around us. For the Hebrews, “everlasting” water meant flowing water. So everlasting life flows from one person to another, a cascading waterfall, gentle brook, the thunder of an ocean, and pouring of a cool drink.

We flow into each other, whether we know it or not, believe it or not, want to or not. For better or worse, we influence others, and shape the quality of all life around us. Acceptance of this awesome responsibility is the door to the kingdom of heaven.

To honor the king’s son, we love one another, as he loves us.

“If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honour.”-John 12:26.

If we commit to this flowing life, which circulates from God, to Jesus, to us, and back again, then God invites us to the marriage. The feast celebrates our covenant: to cherish, honor, and not even in death do we part.

Refusal of his invitation insults the king. And insulting the king is treason.

“But they [who were invited] made light of it, and went their ways, one to his farm, another to his merchandise.”-Matthew 22:5.

Remember, the people who refused the king’s servants were already born again. They had gained the king’s favor, and received an invitation to the wedding.

Then their pride took hold of them.

“When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.”-Proverbs 11:2.

They chose to honor their farms and merchandise, what they accomplished on their own. After all, we need our jobs to support our families; and we feel pride in taking care of our own.

Happiness and pride differ greatly, though we often use them interchangeably. By being happy with our success, we also show gratitude for our daily bread. With happiness, we honor life; with pride, we worship our own greatness.

“Their land also is full of idols; they worship the work of their own hands, that which their own fingers have made.”-Isaiah 2:8.

Remember, Jesus is “meek and lowly in heart.” Without reverence for God, for all things, we cannot enter the kingdom of heaven. We cannot bow, in meek reverence, if we’re prideful.

When we’re reborn, then we love as God does, as Jesus taught.

“He that saith he abideth in him ought himself also so to walk, even as he walked.”-1 John 2:6.

But, we say, if I don’t tend the farm, or work in the store, my family doesn’t eat. First I have to take care of my family and myself, and then donate what’s left to others.

We never finish looking out for ourselves, or caring for our loved ones. The store needs stocking, and the field needs plowing, every day.

“…No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.”-Luke 9:62.

So how can we look forward to others, if we’re always looking back on ourselves?

Since God is everything, love for all is the only way to neglect nothing. That’s why Jesus wants us to seek God first.

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”-Matthew 6:33.

By loving God, we love everyone and everything all at once. Jesus gives and teaches us this divine love; in return, we honor his (and our) union with all life.

Keep in mind, whether we pass or fail doesn’t matter, compared to how we react to the test. After they refused the king’s invitation the second time, “the invited” returned to their businesses.

But some went too far, and reacted with hate.

“And the remnant took his servants, and entreated them spitefully, and slew them.”-Matthew 22:6.

Back then, the king’s messenger was exempted from harm. Killing him was a crime worthy of death. The proverb still exists today: You don’t “kill the messenger.”

Why? Because we aren’t just killing the servant, who represents the king. Really, we’re destroying the message he delivers. In this case, we murder the celebration of love.

“He that receiveth whomsoever I send receiveth me; and he that receiveth me receiveth him that sent me.”-John 13:20.

If we reject the king’s authority, then we renounce his rule, and remove ourselves from his protection, and the abundance of his kingdom.

This is the definition of sin.

So far, Jesus has set two paths before us. As servants, after we’re reborn, we spread the good news (the Old English word is “gospel”). But, if we take the other path, if we’re invited but refuse to tend to each other, we stifle the sharing of the gospel. The former we call ministry; and the latter, sin.

When we refuse to share and receive love, for whatever reason, we pay the ultimate price.

“But when the king heard thereof, he was wroth: and he sent forth his armies, and destroyed those murderers, and burned up their city.”-Matthew 22:7.

Conquerors burn resistant cities. And love conquers all.

If we exalt ourselves above the king, then we put what we want before the whole world. God humbles us, and forces us to confront our selfishness. Then, when we admit that we refused to accept and share with others, and rejected our angelic potential, we destroy our city of sin.

When we say God burns our cities, we actually mean that our refusal of loving kindness ruined us. We brought disaster on ourselves.

As John the Baptist said of Jesus:

“…I indeed baptize you with water; but one mightier than I cometh, the latchet of whose shoes I am not worthy to unloose: he shall baptize you with the Holy Ghost and with fire.”-Luke 3:16.

When we see how we suffered, then we know how others feel when they’re in pain. As we hope for someone to help us, so we understand that others need us.

This is the baptism of fire.

We reap what we sow. We reflect the love or hate others project on us, and vice versa. If they’re mean to us, we’re mean to them. Hate begets hate; but love defeats hate. We can choose to break the chain.

If we kill the messenger, we reject and destroy not only the love God offers us, but the potential for us to be messengers (the Greek word for which is “angelos”). If we deny love, then we reject the better angels of our nature; and, therefore, we condemn ourselves.

“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.”-Proverbs 3:5.

Until we are reborn, we learn everything incorrectly: Our sustenance is selfishness; our goals, temporary. But when we nourish ourselves with God’s will, by accepting instead of judging, our burden becomes much lighter.

However painful and heavy at first, this process humbles us, and teaches us how to be worthy of the invitation to the marriage of all life.

“Then saith [the king] to his servants, The wedding is ready, but they which were bidden were not worthy.”-Matthew 22:8.

How do we become worthy? How do we achieve the blessing of God’s invitation?

From The Vulgate (the late 4th century Latin translation of the Bible), the word beati (plural of beatus) means “blessings.” That’s where we get “beatitudes.”

During his sermon on the mount (Matt. 5:3-12), Jesus points out the effects and importance of humility, which result from the blessing of being born again.

Blessed are the following: the poor in spirit, they who mourn, the meek, they who hunger and thirst for righteousness, the merciful, the pure in heart, peacemakers, and they who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake.

In other words, people who are humbled, and pass through the baptism of fire, but react to their apocalypse with wisdom and loving kindness. These are only examples of how to reach that end result. There are as many paths to being born again as there are people.

“Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.”-Matthew 7:20.

We are worthy when we realize that what we thought were curses, are actually blessings. Our tribulation allows us to understand suffering, which leads to our blessing of others.

As God gave us strength and faith, which lifted us out of affliction (which God gave us), so we should comfort others (who God gave us). As Jesus feeds our souls with love and acceptance, so we should nourish and nurture others. We do so because it is all God.

We are all a piece of the puzzle, a part, and an aspect of the cosmos. We are small circles, inside a larger, universal circle. So when we harm or help a single part, then we do the same to the whole. Thus, we bring pain or joy on ourselves, and build or burn our cities.

The invited guests weren’t ready, and lost everything. Remember, we are the servants, when we’re born again and bless others. We’re also the invited, who were reborn, grew prideful, and then rejected the offer to share and receive love.

In this parable, we have a third role or path: the uninvited.

“Go ye therefore into the highways, and as many as ye shall find, bid to the marriage. / So those servants went out into the highways, and gathered together all as many as they found, both bad and good: and the wedding was furnished with guests.”-Matthew 22:9, 10.

When we’re reborn, God invites us to love one another. If we accept, and say yes to Jesus, then we marry all life; we become servants of loving kindness: We share and receive compassion, forgiveness, mercy, and respect with and from everyone and everything.

If we say no, if we refuse to see how we need each other, then we no longer experience the joys of compassion.

The terms good and bad apply to decisions, individual reactions; they are not equal to identity. We aren’t good or bad people; we just make good and bad decisions, with our mindful or mindless reactions.

Before we become servants, we are the invited. Before opportunities invite us, we are the uninvited. So, at one time or another, we are all three paths.

The opportunities present themselves with as many people as we find. Everyone is uninvited, until we invite them.

“We love him, because he first loved us.”-1 John 4:19.

When we’re born again, we marry everyone and everything. Abuse results in divorce. But patience, acceptance, forgiveness, and compassion, i.e., love results in a happy marriage, a beautiful life for all.

Keep in mind, wolves circle our flock, waiting and searching for the weak. We have the potential to do each other great harm, even (or especially) when we act in Jesus’ name.

“…yea, the time cometh, that whosoever killeth you will think that he doeth God service.”-John 16:2.

Not everyone accepts what we offer.

“And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear you, when ye depart thence, shake off the dust under your feet for a testimony against them. Verily I say unto you, It shall be more tolerable for Sodom and Gomorrha in the day of judgment, than for that city.”-Mark 6:11.

Jesus told this to his apostles, as he sent them out to spread the word. When we say yes, we become apostles. We do what we can, but we must allow every person to determine their own path, and covenant with life. If they aren’t ready, then plant the seed, and walk on.

When we say yes, we accept all things, even rejection. We do this because, when we reject someone, we want them to respect our path.

When we say no, we set ourselves up for disappointment and tribulation. Without the love offered by others, we have nothing to hold onto, when the floods come.

If we react wisely to the apocalypse we bring on ourselves, we learn how much we need each other, and how much others need us.

With every interaction, we are born again, through our acceptance or rejection. We cycle through everlasting life, becoming new all the time. Therefore, no one is without hope, or above mistakes.

“As the living Father hath sent me, and I live by the Father: so he that eateth me, even he shall live by me.”-John 6:57.

This cycle shows us how easy it is to live without despair and hatred. Just love one another, as God loves Jesus, and Jesus loves us; that’s all. But that simplicity circulates through complexity; the finite flows through the infinite. How impossible it is to love everyone! So we pass from the kingdom of heaven to a burnt and decimated city.

Then we see how simple our mistake was. We forgot to accept the marriage of our will to the wills of everyone else. Life becomes beautiful again. Then we realize how impossible it is to combine what we want from a marriage, with what everyone else wants.

So many people; so many covenants!

Like Pilate, we wash our hands of Jesus, and surrender his love to the bloodthirsty mob. And we’re back to a heartless life. We wail and gnash our teeth, until we swear to try harder. We succeed, then succumb to pride, which we mistake for happiness.

Pride usurps humility; so when we serve, it is for our own ends, and not for the well-being of our marriage. The uninvited sense our lack of universal love, and reject us; then, in our confusion and frustration, we surrender to hopelessness.

“Watch ye and pray, lest ye enter into temptation. The spirit truly is ready, but the flesh is weak.”-Mark 14:38.

We must accept weakness, just as we say yes to everything else in our marriage. Take it in stride, because we know that we’ll make a new covenant. We’ll rise from the ashes of our self-sabotage. Faith in ourselves and others will breathe into us new, everlasting life.

We are reborn again and again.